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Daniel Pruitt on ADDA Fall Teleconference Series

Daniel Pruitt is going to be on the ADDA Fall Teleconference Series tonight at 9 PM Eastern time.

The handouts can be downloaded here:
  TimeManagementHandouts.pdf

The overheads can be downloaded here:
  TimeManagementTalk.pdf

Defeating the Demons of Distraction: Positive Writing Settings

Defeating the Demons of Distraction: Positive Writing Settings

ADD Coaches Blog, July 31, 2007

            If you are like me or many other coaches who have home offices, you may be plagued by distractions that interfere with writing productivity.  Sometimes the distractions involve a blaring television, barking dog, bickering family members, or deliveries.  Other times, you get lost on the internet or in phone conversations, or lose your focus to other household temptations like snacking or hobbies.

            There are times I am just not getting down to writing. At such times, I need to mentally get away from it all so I can tune into my writing and tune out of the rest of the world. When the writing is arduous or I’m unfocused, I need to create a structured, pleasant, and non-distracting setting in which to work. Sometimes I can organize that environment in my home office, but sometimes I can’t. I need to change rather than reorganize the setting.

            Here are some tips to create positive and non-distracting conditions for writing: 

1. Set a time period to write when you are usually most alert.
2. Commit to between 30 to 90 minutes of writing with ample breaks every 20 to 30 minutes. 
3. Schedule a regular writing time on your calendar, perhaps 2 to 3 times a week.
4. Find a quiet, non-distracting setting that is different than the one in which you usually work. Designate this place as the writing nook or sanctuary. It can be in a basement, library, or coffee shop, depending on your personal needs and style.
5. Enhance the pleasantness by using energizing fragrances such as evergreen, writing with colored pens, or choosing interesting paper.
6. Get comfortable. Use a cushioned chair, wear a favorite soft jacket, and put on a working hat or visor.
7. Ensure that there is room to spread out and have easy access to materials or resources.

            In my own case, I go to the library when I need to concentrate on developing new ideas or working out a problem. I go to a coffee house when the writing task involves less complex or detailed work. What about you?

            Try this practical application in the next week:

• Ask questions such as:
  • When was the last time I wrote in an effective way?
  • Under what conditions did this writing occur?
  • Is the setting that I’m using now contributing to progress toward my writing goals?
  • How can I enhance the setting in which I write in terms of lighting, noise, interruptions, or visual distractions?
• Experiment with 1 or 2 other settings, perhaps with better light, less noise, fewer interruptions, etc.
• Make a list of the conditions that seem to be most conducive to staying on a positive writing track.

            Next week’s topic will deal with questions sent in by readers of this blog. Until next week--don’t let those Demons of Distraction get you down.

Best regards, Geri

Check out my Web site www.managingyourmind.com to find books and products about the Demons of Distraction.

Defeating the Demons of Distraction: Brain Freeze

ADD Coaches Blog, July 17, 2007

Defeating the Demons of Distraction: Brain Freeze

            You have a topic. You stare at the page. Your mind is blank. You have what I call a brain freeze. Don’t panic! Whether your anxiety level is up, or your creative well is dry, in most cases, you are only facing a temporary block.  This is a common and expected situation for anyone engaging in a creative endeavor.

            You can react to this situation in one of two ways: productively or unproductively.  If you elect an unproductive reaction, then you berate yourself for being dumb and make comments to yourself such as, “This always happens” or “I’ll never be able to finish.”  Such negative self-talk places the blame and shame on you as a person and distracts you from moving from a temporary unproductive state to a more productive, creative one. 

            The productive reaction views a brain freeze as a challenge to be addressed.  This helps you focus on solutions instead undermining your self esteem. It helps you to gain control and not feel helpless. Here are some positive self-statements that will help you unfreeze:

• “I’m temporarily frozen.”
• “This happens to all writers and other creative people such as artists and composers.”
• “I have been productive before and I will be productive again.”
• “I know strategies, activities, and exercises to help me unfreeze.”

            Here’s an interesting example of brain freeze: while writing this blog, I tried to come up with an example from my own writing experience and couldn’t! How’s that for irony? I’m sure I’ll remember some concrete to use in some future blog entries. Stay tuned!

            Try this practical application during the next week:

·        Begin a writing task.

·        Become mindful of the thoughts or statements you are making to yourself about writing.

·        Jot them down.

·        Classify them into two categories: positive statements or visions, and negative ones.

·        Visualize times during which you have been successful and have overcome a difficulty.

·        Take one or two of the negative statements and convert them into positives using the positive energy gained from visualizing your past successes.

            Next week, we’ll discuss how to stop talking yourself out of writing. Until next week—don’t let those Demons of Distraction get you down.

Best regards, Geri

Check out my Web site www.managingyourmind.com for books and products about the Demons of Distraction.

Mother-to-be My Way

In a recent post I ranted a bit about the black-and-white thinking I was hearing about the practicalities of working at home with a new baby. I wanted to go back to that to talk a little bit about my own view of how it should be done.

Ok, maybe you know me better than that: I don't think it should be done any given way.

I recently read a lovely book called Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way We Parent by Meredith Small, and I do highly recommend it. This book describes itself as being about "ethnopediatrics;" I tend to think about it as a sort of anthropology of infant care. While this book seems to conclude a few things about how we were built, it does reinforce a central tenet: there is no right way of caring for an infant. There are many culturally-based and biologically-based aspects to how we parent.

Here are some things that the book seems to conclude:

• We evolved to be carried around. All those millennia of having neither strollers nor the safety of modern buildings meant we carried our infants while hunting, gathering, farming, etc. Babies tend towards wanting contact and movement.
• We evolved without infant "scheduling." Different cultures deal differently with nursing and infant feeding; depending on the necessities and customs of a given culture. Infants may either feed at will, or may have to wait a while for mama/caregiver to be able to get around to it. In more contemporary societies, we may think it's more healthful to only feed baby on a set schedule, but this is culturally-based.

Where does that leave me, as a mother-to-be? It leaves me knowing that there are options, and that baby will do fine however I feed him or otherwise care for him. There is no need to decide on principle that there is a "best" way. Taking care of myself and my business (which means taking care of my clients) can form a structure to build around. At the same time, as a coach, I can model choices that suit me and my child and family, carving out the right path for me and for us, rather than taking on the assumptions of our society of how things should be done best.

Some coaches have told me about their different ways of combining coaching with infant care; in other words, the divergent strategies that worked for them. Here are a few examples:

• Hiring a babysitter to be at the house for a block of time during which to schedule coaching calls.
• Occasionally nursing while coaching, with the knowledge and agreement of the client.
• Bringing baby to daycare.
• Scheduling a longer block with a client, with the agreement that coach will call client after she's done nursing.
• In general, being aware that baby's rhythms will change every couple of months.

It seems to me that it's going to be a fascinating and compelling exercise in flexibility and ingenuity. It also seems like there are so many people telling each other which way of operating and parenting is correct, and so much bias against e.g. nursing in public, that it becomes very important and impactful to make personal choices and to demonstrate them!

Happy Friday to you all,

Becca

www.coachbecca.com

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Defeating the Demons of Distraction: Writing Apprehension

Do you feel apprehensive about writing?  Do you feel jittery when you sit down to write?  Do these feelings inhibit you from doing the professional writing you’d like to do?  For example, you know you want to prepare a proposal for a conference but have been putting it off; or you have the idea but can’t seem to get it on paper; or you begin writing it, but run out of steam.  You doubt yourself and your creative energy dissipates.

You can benefit from a few coping strategies that calm you down so that you can regain your focus and psychic energy.  Here are some tried and true methods.  The key is to use them systematically, not just think about them. You can relax by:

·        Taking 4 to 6 deep breathes. Close your eyes and inhale slowly to the count of 4 and then exhale slowly to the count of 4.   

·        Stretching.  Moving your large muscle groups helps to expend unneeded physical tension.

·        Tensing and flexing smaller muscle groups: First open and close your fingers, hands, wrists and then make circles using your ankles and feet.

·        Listening to soothing music.

·        Smelling lovely fragrances.

·        Drinking a non caffeinated drink or eating a healthy snack.

·        Visualizing a pleasant scene or successful experience.

·        Making calming statements such as: “I can shift gears.  I can help myself become calm and more relaxed.”

As related to writing, one of my calming techniques is talking to other writers. When I get “antsy” about some writing issue that I encounter, I call a colleague to talk it over.

Try this application during the next week. 

·        Schedule a time to engage in a small scale writing task.

·        Become mindful of any negative thoughts and feelings about your writing.

·        Jot these down.

·        Select one.

·        Use one or two of the relaxing techniques to calm yourself.

·        Begin the writing task.

·        Repeat if the apprehension continues or if you get the jitters.

Next week, you’ll find ways to deal with a temporary writer’s block—what I call a “brain freeze.” Until next week--don’t let those Demons of Distraction get you down.

Best regards, Geri

Check out my Web site www.managingyourmind.com to find books and products about the Demons of Distraction.

Defeating the Demons of Distraction: Talk Yourself Into Writing

ADD Coaches Blog, July 24, 2007

Defeating the Demons of Distraction: Talk Yourself into Writing

            When some coaches are faced with a writing project, they worry that what they want to write is not a worthy or relevant topic. This difficulty has less to do with the coach’s actual writing ability than with the coach’s lack of confidence. This is an understandable feeling for coaches who are new to the writing game. In considering their topic, such coaches might say, “People probably know that already. Is it really relevant? Who would want to read this?” What they end up doing is talking themselves out of the writing project.

            Early in my career, I made similar statements to myself, only to see that the ideas I had come up with were eventually written about by others. When I saw such books and articles appear, I became very irritated. After a few such experiences, I decided to do two things. First, to reduce my uncertainty about whether or not a topic was relevant, I asked students, clients, and colleagues if they saw my idea as a relevant topic. Second, when I had a topic or problem in mind, I would use it as the basis for a set of tips or a short presentation. Based on the feedback from such activities, I would then expand into more substantial writing projects. In addition, I decided to work with a colleague to lower the stress and increase the fun.

            This strategy resulted in the publication in 1979 of Parents Are to be Seen AND Heard: Assertiveness in Education Planning for Handicapped Children, co-authored with my long-time friend and colleague, Judith Greenbaum.

            Here are some tips that you might find useful in helping you decide which of your ideas are worth pursuing:

• Identify the target audience.
• List problems you have noticed.
• Identify solutions to one or two problems.
• Informally survey your intended target audience about questions and concerns they’d like you to address.
• Brainstorm formats that could communicate the message, for example, should you start with a checklist, a question and answer format, or a one-page mini-report?

            These efforts will help you reduce some of the uncertainties (and risks) of feeling vulnerable when you’re considering putting yourself out there as a writer.

            Try this practical application in the next week:

• Choose a trusted colleague or member of your networking group to brainstorm about possible writing projects.
• Identify possible target audiences for your topic.
• Decide the format you would use to discuss your topic, for example, a contribution to a blog or a paragraph in a handout.

            Next week, we’ll discuss how to create a positive work setting so you can get and stay on the right track with your writing project. Until next week--don’t let those Demons of Distraction get you down.

Best regards, Geri

Check out my Web site www.managingyourmind.com to find books and products about the Demons of Distraction.